SEA LIFE

Our day started off at 5:45 this morning!  Tyler woke up bright and early and wanted to play so of course Hailey got up too.  It was a rough start for me as they usually both sleep until closer to 8.  We managed and Tyler took his first nap at 9.  Then we all took a nap after lunch.  On top of waking up really early, I must have woke up on the wrong side of the bed too.  I was crabby.  Today was one of those days I really miss home.  Of course I miss it all the time but some days are worse than others.  It is just so hard not knowing or having anyone other than Amy and Brandi.  Dont get me wrong, they do so much for us.  But they have other things to do and other people to see other than us everyweek.  Not to mention the 45 minute drive.  It would be so nice just to be able to drive 10 minutes to a friend or familys house to visit and hang out or have dinner at the last minute.

Waco, the kids and I all went to Sea Life tonight.  It is similar to the aquarium in Omaha.  She really enjoyed it-especially since Finding Nemo is one of her favorite movies now.  I think Tyler liked it too.  He was kicking his feet the entire time we were there.  I will be excited to take him swimming this summer-I think that he will love the water.  Speaking of swimming, we bought swimsuits the other day.  I know it seems early but keep in mind it is in the 70s here right now and will probably be swimming weather by April.  We bought the kids 2 suits each, 1 for home and 1 for Amy's house since they have a pool.  Hailey insisted on the suit she wanted and was very vocal about which ones she didn't want.  This will be frustrating at times in the future I am sure, but also helpful as I am usually pretty indecisive when it comes to picking clothes and colors.  Tyler drank from a straw for the first time tonight (I think he knew it was a fruit smoothe).

Although the day didnt start off the best, it ended up with an ok ending.  We love and miss everyone more than words can describe.  I cant wait to come home to visit, but unfortunately dont know when that will be.  Originally I was thinking spring and that may happen, but think it would be nice to come home around Haileys birthday or 4th of July.  Of course I would love to do both, but we wont be able to do that.  I will keep everyone updated once we decide.

TGIF

Who would think that when you aren't working, you would be excited for Friday?!  The kids and I look forward to the weekends because we have more time to spend with Waco.  The weekends just seem to be a little more relaxed. We usually get to do something "fun" and a lot of times end up spending time with Amy and sometimes Brandi.

Bedtime is not quite to 100% yet, but definetly better.  Last night Hailey got out of bed 3-4 times so we had to end up putting up the gate.  Tonight she got up 3 times but when I put her back to bed and explained that if  she got up again I would have to put the gate up, Sleeping Beauty went to bed.  She has really developed quite the personality.  Waco, Hailey and I watched The Incredibles when Tyler went to bed.  We were all cuddling on the couch and she was rubbing my back and stroking my hair (like I often do to her).  She took a toy away from Tyler today and when I told her she needed to give it back to him, she instead gave him a different toy.  I explained to her she needed to give him back to the toy she took from him.  She told me he didnt want it anymore, he wanted a new toy.

The kids and I went shopping this afternoon.  I told Hailey we were going to Kohls, she got so excited.  Then when we got there she said she didn't like it, she wanted to go to her friend Cole's house. ; ( I am excited for her to start going to daycare so she can meet some new friends to play with.  Tyler got lots of attention at the store.  Then again he always does.  He smiles at everyone and his eyes twinkle.  I am not just being a biast mom, people really do stop to talk to him everywhere we go.  I really hope that he grows into a happy boy and man.  His smile and personality just light up a room.

There was a knock at the door tonight right before we had dinner.  It was a young girl (12ish) that asked if she could use our phone.  I was a little hesitant as Tyler was sleeping and Waco wasnt home.  She didnt tell me who she was or why she needed to use it.  I stalled and probed a bit, and Waco pulled up with dinner just in time.  Apparently she was locked out or didnt have a key and her mom wasnt home.  Waco let her use his phone and let her come in until her mom came home.  We hadnt met her before (only the party boys on one side, the pot head on the other side, and the nice neighbors across the street that seem to want to push religion and politics on us).  It was a little ackward.  She told us her and a friend took the bus home and then walked to WalMart for some snacks.  When they got home, the door was locked/no one was home so they went to the park for a while.  They came back again and her mom was gone so her friend went home and she sat on the porch.  She said she fell asleep and woke up and it was cold and dark.  She told us she had a 8 year old brother and a 3 year old brother.  I asked if her 3 year old brother went to daycare and she said no my Grandma watched him.  I said, "Oh, thats nice" and she said "Yeah, I think he is in Mexico right now".  I dont know, it all just seemed a little strange to me.  I guess the point of me sharing this is we were just getting ready to eat dinner so I asked her if she wanted any and she said no.  I felt bad eatting in front of her so I decided to wait.  Hailey later said she was hungry so I told the girl she was more than welcome to eat with us and she finally decided to eat.  Waco later said that I was Mother Teresa-I found this funny but sad.

I wanted to backtrack to my blog JOB UPDATE.  I failed to mention the reason I was so upset about how it was handled is because I truly felt she was discriminating against me because I disclosed I had children.
I did get a call back from the company that I interviewed with yesterday and they would like me to come in to interview in person (the first interview was with the agency that will be placing me and the second one was a phone interview with the company).  They have not scheduled a day or time yet, but it will be sometime next week.

No big plans for the weekend.  Waco and I might take the kids to Sea Life sometime this weekend.  I may not post this weekend but plan to add some pictures within the next few days.

JOB UPDATES

For those of you that haven't heard, I was offered and accepted a job early last week.  Although the hours and the pay weren't great, it was close to home, a good company (or so I thought) and I felt that I would have enjoyed the job.  After I accepted the job, I asked the hiring manager on rare occassion, when my husband goes out of town on business would I be able to leave at 5:30 to pick up our kids as most daycares close at 6.  I reassured her that he would be picking up the kids majority of the time and when he does travel (every couple of months) we know well in advance and I would of course make up the hours by coming in early.  She said that would be fine as there would be times when I would need to stay late so it would all work itself out.  A few days later (AFTER the offer was made and accepted) she called me to say she was recending (taking back) the job offer.  I was in shock!  I have heard of this happening but usually when someone doesnt pass their drug test of criminal background check (which I KNOW I passed with flying colors).  She said it was because I asked about leaving early and she really needed someone to be there 9-6.  I reassured her AGAIN that it wouldn't be very often, and we were actually in the process of visiting a daycare that had later hours.  She said, to be honest if I knew your situation earlier, I wouldnt have brought you in for a final interview and I was to big of a risk to hire!  (Did I forget to mention when I went in for the first interview I knew she would be a B to work for.  She also had said they had 2 people not work out in the last year....I am pretty sure that was because of her and not them.  Not that it matters, but I also think that work is her life and she has no family and friends outside of work).  This was a family owned company too.  I asked her if John (who was the VP) and the HR manager (who works in a different city) knew about this as I didn't think it was the right way of handling this.  She assured me they did and were ok with it.  I told her I was very disappointed and I thought a more appropriate way of handling it would have been to call me and say how important the hours were and that they could not be flexible, was I still interested and would I be able to committ to that.  After many tears and a rough nights sleep I decided to call the HR Manager who I had never met to express my disappointment.  She had no idea who I was or what had happened!  She assured me that she was going to call John (whom I had also interviewed with), the VP and disciplinary actions were going to be taken with the hiring manager.  I am in the process of writting him a letter to ensure he does know.  I did tell her that I wasn't sure why I was even calling as my family and I had decided this wouldnt be a good fit for me anyway (not just because of the hours and pay, but more so how it was handled).  Waco later told me that he had been thinking about the job and how he was going to talk to me and have me call them to say I wasn't going to be able to work there anyway.  Yes, some extra money is better than none, but when factoring in what they were going to pay me versus what we would pay in daycare on top of the hours, it was not worth it to us.

I guess things do happen for a reason.  That same day I got a phone call about another job.  It is through a staffing company hiring for another company (and it is a direct hire as in regular ongoing employment versus a temp job).  It is a software educational development company that is about 10 minutes away and the pay is much better.  I have my second interview this afternoon.

Last night bedtime was not fun.  Hailey got out of her bed several times so we put up the baby gate in her doorway. She cried even harder (I will not say for how long to avoid criticism).  The crying would get quieter and even stop, but then she would go at it again.  Finally she said she had to go to the bathroom.  I believed her as I don't think she understands how to play that game...yet.  So I took the gate off and took her potty.  After that she said please don't put the gate up mommy.  I told her ok, I will keep the gate down if you can stay in your bed.  She said ok and off to bed she went, no crying and didnt get out of bed until this morning.

BAD DAY

Today was not a very good day.  Hailey had #2 accidents twice today (she has not had any in over 5 months).  I would have sworn she was going deaf as she didn't listen to me at all today and nap time was as bad as bedtime has been.  After a very difficult night of trying to get her to go to bed last night I posted my frustrations on Facebook and got some very needed friendly advice/suggestions.  I know that we need to be consistent and not give in, but it is easier said than done.  However, as silly as it sounds, this is the first big "problem" we have had.  Both of our kids have never had problems going to bed, don't throw obnoxious fits, and didnt have any stuggles of getting rid of pacifiers or bottles.  (I am now having anxiety and frustrations of whats ahead of us for the next 16 years)!  At nap time I told her she could lay in her bed and look at books, she didnt have to sleep it was just quiet time (however, I knew she would end up falling asleep).  Of course she came running after me crying.  I walked her back to her room and told her that I wasnt going to tell her again, it was quiet time and she need to stay in her room.  She proceeded to follow me and cry five more times.  Except I took her hand, walked her back to her room and left without saying anything.  The fifth time I told her that if she got out of bed again I was going to put up the baby gate.  She cried for a few minutes and fell fast asleep.  I told Waco that I need his support sticking to this 110% (as he was the one who gave in to her last night).  So this is going to be our focus for the next week or two...or three.  We do have a special treat for her (Giant Toy Story Coloring Pages) that she can have when she can go to bed like a big girl.  She knows what it is, I have it sitting on the table and we talk about it.  We are also ordering a book called The Sleep Fairy that a friend recommeded.  The Sleep Fairy is similar to the Tooth Fairy.  She brings you treats (very small ones)-a sticker, a hair bow, fruit snacks).  I know it may sound bad as it is kind of like bribing, but I feel better doing this than letting her cry it out or giving in.  It would be every night for a week or two and then slowly tapper off.  I will keep you all updated.

No new news on Tyler, he is just a smiley and happy as always!  (Thank Goodness)!

I didnt plan on writting this much tonight so I will try to write an update on the job search tomorrow.

BEDTIME AND DREAMS

The kids and I had a pretty uneventful day.  We went to the grocery store, which is about as exciting as a week day gets for us.  Although that is pretty exciting for them because the ladies at the bank always give them suckers. (Shhh, don't tell Waco.  He doesn't like them to have them because of the sugar and I agree, however, it makes the hour in the store with 2 kids much more bearable for all three of us, as well as everyone else in the store). 

After giving Hailey a glass of milk today, she told me she loved me and that I was so pretty.  She ate all of her dinner and asked for more.  (This is good as she hasn't been eating the best lately).  Waco had a long day at work so wasn't able to eat dinner with us.  She wanted to call him to tell him that she ate her dinner all gone.  He told her that when he gets home they could share a bowl of ice cream.  After they hung up, she said Daddy is so nice...I think I love him alot!  I am hoping that the bowl of ice cream satisfies her enough that she will go to bed easily.  We have been lucky thus far that both of our kids have always gone to bed easily on their own and sleep through the night.  For some reason, at age 2 1/2, Hailey is regressing in the sleeping area.  Ever since Grandma DeeDee left town (sorry Mom), Hailey decided she wants to keep her door open and a night light on.  We were fine with that, BUT then a few weeks ago she started getting up in the middle of the night and coming into our room.  As much as I like to cuddle with her, I did not let her sleep with us, so I compromised and layed on her floor next to her until she feel asleep.  Several nights and a back ache later,  I decided I couldn't continue doing that either.  So now, as soon as we put her to bed, no later than walking put of her room, she comes running out of her room crying.  We will read stories, get a drink of water, rub her back and nothing works.  She continues to do this until she gets so tired she just zonks out.  We told her that if she could go to bed and stays in her bed until morning time she would get a present.  Well last night would have been night 3 but she had a meltdown so we are back to square one.

Speaking of bedtime, Hailey and I had a discussion about dreams.  She asked what a dream was.  I told her its when you go to bed and are sleeping, sometimes you dream-kind of like a story or movie.  She said, oh kind of like I do about Grandpa Bill?!

Well I think I will end for today.  Unless something extra good happens tomorrow that I can't resist sharing, I will update everyone on my job search.

GOOD INTENTIONS

I decided to create a blog to keep everyone updated on a weekly, if not daily basis.  I will post pictures, talk about activities, new accomplishments and funny quotes from the kids or even to vent when I am having a bad day.  Please remember I am not a good speller and have never been gramatically correct.  I have tried my best to keep in touch with phone calls, emails and pictures but thought this would be a fun way to stay in touch and keep everyone updated without forgetting things.  I am also not the most tech savy so my blog isn't very fancy...yet.  You will see changes/adjustments as I add most posts.  I have good intentions stay on top of this, but not sure how long it will last.  Kind of like a New Years Resolution with a late start.  I believe you can either just occassionally check the site (http://jwhitmarsh11.blogspot.com/) or subscribe as a follower and receive an email notification whenever we make new posts.